Being an entrepreneur, whether new or traditional, is as much having distinctive attitudes, beliefs, mindset, as it is knowing about business, finance or being marketing savvy and over and all these a true entrepreneur is a person who focuses on what problems exists to be resolved and they work towards it as a true leader. Acquiring these attitudes, beliefs and mindset is the most important step to a successful entrepreneurship.
This Leader knows what he wants. You have to know what for you want to escape from your Job. It’s your ‘WHY’ that you need to know before you even think of quitting your day Job. If you want to quit your job, just because you want to be rich or you want to be your own boss, won’t help. It’s not the reason or your ‘WHY’. The real ‘WHY’ is the purpose behind what you do and why you do. It’s the emotional drive that will push you further. If you are unsatisfied with the current environment and situation, that also is not the real ‘WHY’ for which you want to quit. All these are your wants. Your ‘WHY’ should be the reason that should be compared to a very strong belief, as strong as you would want to breath. You should be ready to give up all comfort and take up as many challenges that come the way. It’s ultimately the happiness that you get after being successful fulfilling the desire for your WHY. It’s only that happiness for which you are ready to burn the midnight candles. Now you might think that if that is so then why not be happy today so that you got to the end state today itself and don’t have to go through the whole painful Journey. Well you are partially right, however the truth is that you can never get the exact happiness level that you can get after becoming successful in whatever way you want to be . See a person can get happiness even if he got a blind man cross the road and another person ,might get happiness by spending time with his family, another person might be happy by taking care of his old parents and some might be only happy when they got over the poverty line and become prosperous. And each happiness level is in direct proportional to the Satisfaction level.
All Happiness is classified in to two type’s .One that stays and second that does not stay. For example if a person can only be happy if he won a lottery or became rich to own a home , a car etc. then that I classify as temporary happiness or the one that does not stay. If this person achieves what he desired then he will be happy for a short while. He then will look at other means of getting happiness. He may then want to own a Mansion or a Private Jet. His wants will never end.
On the contrary acquiring knowledge or a Specialised Skillset which can help a person live comfortably and serve many others or maintaining healthy relationship with spouse or kids, then these kinds of happiness stays and grows. Hence what I am trying to state here is to exit out of a Job and to become Successful consistently you have to clearly go deep within yourself and retrain your mind to figure out the true potential and true reason for your desire that would then eventually help you figure out your passion. Once you figure out what you love to do, monetizing that is relatively simple. The Drive for getting success is not the materialistic achievements but the intangible achievements that leads to a permanent happiness.
There are many answers to this age old problem, however, the most relevant answers fabricated to help you overcome the real worldly challenges are as listed below.
As I had mentioned in my book “Be empowered before you quit your Job”, Human wants are ever growing. Even though his needs may be very less but his wants has to be growing else he will reach a plateau and happiness cannot stay with you if there is no change either within you or outside you. To exit out of the Job you have to accept or willing to change big time. You have to be so hungry to succeed like never before. Hence I stress too much on being prepared before you quit. That does not mean to earn lots of money to sustain for many years. No .This is only got to do with a Big Change in your mindset. This will continue to push you again and again till you get successful. Your life is a manifestation of the choices you make, so you need to be conscious about the choices that you make.
Often our mind behaves as a result of the way you cultivate it from childhood. If you have been brought up in boundaries, the way you look at things change as an when you grow up. You become scared of the world and end up being closed to whatever others say. You unconsciously adapt negative thoughts and may not lead a quality life. There is a lot to consider in the realm of “beliefs” and how many areas of life it can affect. Beliefs are deep seeded and we need to get a clear understanding of how we learned them in order to make the effective change. We have to understand what was said to us or told to us that we took on as a belief. Good thing is this behaviour can be changed and learning to manage negative thoughts and feelings empowers you, as does the ability to follow through on goals and commitments to yourself.
Similarly, since you’re accountable for your feelings and actions, the more and more you be positive the more you see opportunity is in front of you.
Change the way you Communicate
Communication is the glue that holds relationships together. Learn to communicate positively, be patient and be present and listen more to what others have to say. No matter how difficult it is to hear something, always try to look at the person while they are talking. This really lets the person know that they are heard. Let the person completely finish what they have to say. It’s very tempting to interrupt when we hear something we don’t like. Let the other person share their feelings with you until it’s your turn to share. This way you got an opportunity to communicate precisely and potentially connect with the person better. Learn to be a Success seekers rather than failure avoiders. It’s all how you talk to yourself, how you communicate to yourself.
Change your bad Habits
A habit (or wont) is a routine of behavior that is repeated regularly and tends to occur unconsciously. In the American Journal of Psychology (1903) it is defined in this way: “A habit, from the standpoint of psychology, is a more or less fixed way of thinking, willing, or feeling acquired through previous repetition of a mental experience. Since it’s the thoughts that leads to emotion which in turn leads to the behaviour, your change in the thoughts can actually change your behaviour. Now Old habits are hard to break and new habits are hard to form because the behavioural patterns we repeat are imprinted in our neural pathways. But it is possible to form new habits through repetition. Any Habit can be changed by repeatedly incorporating the new habit for at least 29 days to 60 days depending on different individuals grasping power. Hence for e.g. if you have a habit to get up late then practise to get up early daily for more than 29 days and you will see that initially, you found it very difficult but as and when days pass by you will realise that it’s so easy and also you will never unconsciously get up early after these many repetitions. You have now ingrained that in to your subconscious mind. Now to begin practising to get up early, you need to figure out the motivation behind it so that you don’t give up. It’s your will power that will come handy. If your WHY is so strong you will figure out a way to motivate yourself for this change. You need to develop also a daily ritual or habit for thinking on your goals on a daily basis. You are then creating a neurological pattern, a map of your new goal in your brain and hence your subconscious mind sees it in the physical world to match to your goal and hence it knows how to reach that goal. Once you create that habit , your start thinking differently as well. All habits are triggered due to some trigger . for e.g. people drink alcohol as they feel alcohol makes them feel more light and get their anxiety reduced and they get satisfaction and get happiness, however if that person replaces drinking with going to gym and exercising with some friends who can be his accountability partner then that also ends up in happiness. This can be a way to change habits if will power alone cannot sustain. This way the probability to get rid of any habits is even more.
Now, this is not that complicated to understand. Now let me tell you what causes the belief or perception to be created. There are two types of belief one that is explicit beliefs that we have which are called an explicit belief eg. I believe I can make more money, I believe I can be in a good relationship, I believe I am powerful beyond measure etc.. But what research has found is that there is something called the implicit beliefs. Now, this is what is underneath your mind, in your subconscious part of your mind. Now, this is what you think about in true about yourself or about anything for e.g. am I smart enough, will I make it, do I deserve success, what if I fail, what if… All these causes a couple of things to happen like doubts.Hence belief and habits go hand in hand. For e.g if you have a goal to make 100000 Dollar and if you don’t believe that you could make it then there is no way you can make it. Hence Belief is like a crystal clear view of all the puzzles that when fit together will produce the desired result. What you believe about yourself is nothing but a combination of what your parents taught you, teachers taught you and what you learned from your surroundings. Those things have created a pattern in your mind which when reinforced over time you formed some habits which finally caused the results. Now if you instead of considering these beliefs based on what you think you are capable of if you choose a Goal and without thinking whether you will be able to do or not and without focusing on how to do, you create or get help to develop strategies, tactics, and process to achieve that and if on top of that you choose the habits and beliefs in order to achieve the goals, you will be amazed how easy it was to be successful. Now to choose the belief you need to look at the goal daily and see yourself in future right now as if you have achieved that and feel that you can do with emotions.
BE SELF MOTIVATED EVERY MINUTE OF YOUR DAY
Feeling empowered is the push that you have towards the right direction.Check if you feel empowered by asking yourself these 3 questions. If you answer all the 3 questions you feel competent. When you feel competent at doing worthwhile work you are more likely to be self-motivated.
Self-efficacy – Can you do it? Do you believe you can do it? Do you have the time, knowledge and the training to do what we are asking you to do.
Response efficacy – Will it work? Believing that the behavior will lead to the desired outcome.
Selection by consequences – This is a Motivation question- Is it worth it? Dale Carnegie said from the day you were born, everything that you did was because you wanted something for doing it. We all are in control by consequences.
MINDSET , ATTITUDE & CONFIDENCE
The Key to achieving our goals and our success is to avoid mental traps. A mental trap is either believing that you are special or leading to believe that you are not special nor having the ability to achieve anything in life. Remember different mindset lead to different behavior and hence different results. People who don’t understand this and who have a fixed mindset will tend to think that they cannot achieve something that is beyond their intellectual and hence will not even waste time thinking that they can. On the contrary, people who have a growing mindset increases their intellect over time and hence the performance increases. It’s just a different perspective on intelligence. Hence the key to success is not only the effort, persistence or focus but also to have a growth mindset. This mindset is critical. Hence when we realize that we can change our own abilities and have a growth Mindset, we bring you to a whole new level. Hence people with a fixed mindset needs praise to go further but a people who have a growth mindset becomes more active when they get information on what they could do better to go further.In other words, people with fixed mindset focus on how they are judged by others and people with a Growth Mindset focus on increasing the knowledge.The same applies to all things that each group of mindset people sees. The effort is seen as something that people who are lower does and not themselves but people with growth mindset sees that as a way to grow. The same applies when people hits some setbacks. Fixed mindset person withdraws but growth mindset people find something better to do and finds another workaround.So, in a Nutshell, our brain remains healthy when we constantly think about change and work on how to grow to the next level. Ask yourself how to develop your ability to reach that next level and cultivate the growth mindset. Once you cultivate this habit then you will reach your full potential and will lead a competent and contented, happy life.
A Man is nothing but an animal with a mind and is identified by his mind rest all even dogs and cattle’s have. It’s only this thing that distinguishes man from animals. The Mind is like a double edge sword. It seems good as well as bad depending on what your experience towards life is. Hence the way we see life is what matters. If we see life negatively you will end up with a negative attitude and fixed mindset. But at the same time if you take everything that happens positively then no matter what you will be confident and lead a happy contented life with a growth mindset and will clearly see when opportunities coming to you. You will never be the same again.
CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS & MANAGE YOUR FEELINGS /EMOTIONS
The Source of all problems, shortfalls or setbacks lies deep within our subconscious mind. If not properly understood then your subconscious mind can literally sabotage your life. However the good thing is that you need to just practise these techniques and to feed your subconscious mind with sublime thoughts by which even though your conscious mind does not perceive these thoughts but your subconscious mind will perceive it and that’s how it works. So let me get straight to it.
To explain this let me tell you a story
A woman was sitting at the airport with her box of cookies. As she took one of the cookies from her bag a man sitting beside her also took one. She immediately got angry but did not say a word and kept focusing on the thought that how mean this person is that he is without any shame taking the cookie out of her bag with no gratitude. The next cookie she takes the man too take the next and the women was only getting her emotions worsened by the thought that how can this man keep taking the cookies out of her bag without permission or a word of thanks . At the end one cookie was left and the man took it and broke it in to two and gave one half to the lady who snatched and eat and took her bag and rushed to the Flight as she heard the flight being called. All this time she was thinking what a thief that man is . As she sat down in her flight and took a look at her bag she found that the box of cookie that she bought was intact and so that means all this while she was eating the cookie from the box that the man had bought and now she immediately got her emotions changed from Anger to guilt as she now felt that she was the thief.
Now, who were you till now? Where are you thinking independent or inter-dependent? If independent then I don’t blame you as we all are brought up the same way. You as all must have immediately gone into that judgemental mode to assess that the person was a thief and didn’t even think for a second why that person is doing that nor tried to find the answer.
Control your thoughts and expectations and allow no one to put negative limitations to your dreams. Your Thoughts lead to Emotions which lead to behavioral changes which when added with massive action will make all the difference.
Is it the Fear of Unknown? Step into your FEAR and say YES to your Life. Stop wasting time and start to appreciate existence before it’s too late. Marcel Proust a great French literature wrote this in his famous and one of the world longest novel called “In Search of Lost time” that the more you appreciate your surroundings the more you become happier and your results will show a drastic improvement.